I don't think that you have been very specific about her words re OM this past weekend. What did she say about OM?
Hey Denver... Well I didn't dive TOO much into OM this weekend, as I didn't want her to feel I was persecuting her and didn't want to let OM dominate our conversation.
In summary, she admitted that she is seeing OM. She told me that she didn't just go up there to be with him (which I believe), that she didn't decide to start seeing him as soon as she got up there (which I also believe), but that after she moved up there and was met with a couple weeks of silence... she began to wonder. She says we talked after she'd been up there for a couple weeks and I stated "Obviously, we're separated... I mean you moved away!". Although I don't remember saying that, I don't doubt that I did. She says that that after that particular conversation was when things started with OM (which I also believe).
In her mind, as we were/are separated, this isn't an Affair, and this isn't cheating (Something my IC was VERY adamant in pointing out... that she probably doesn't see this as an affair or as cheating as she took the steps to separate before pursuing a PA.)
I validated this thinking, as I truly understand her opinion on it, even if I don't agree.
We didn't get into too many more details than that, and I tried my best not to keep bringing it up... Although it slipped into conversations again once in a while... like when I was surprised that she actually wanted to read the draft-posts on her blog... I was shocked and said something like "You want to read about how much I love you even though you're going back to OM?"... I know that was a mistake, and I quickly dropped that.
Hope this answers your question!
That is classic wayward thinking and most likely a large stretch of the truth that is more for her and not you. See when your married your married. Unless you have some legal document before you saying your legally separated or divorced then its cheating. Isn't it just so utterly impossible in odds that she just happened to move back to Mouseville and then by chance happen to meet up with the same man she was texting and sending pictures to a few months earlier... right around the same time you realized that the marriage was falling apart... hmmmm......
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