Well as for me, I think the only authentic thing I got going on is really seeing that Im really not living the life I want to right now.
So as always I look at where I am now, and where I want to be. Figuring out where I want to be really is trial and error. You may think you want certain things, but as you try them on for size maybe you don't.
I heard someone speak on an old Oprah Winfrey show that betrayal of one's self is not speaking up for one's self, or not being proactive in your own life to help you finding true contentness and joy. For example, not opening up to our spouses is a form of self betrayal. Putting up with bad behaviors from other's is a form of betrayal of yourself.
Have Mercy I've been betraying myself all my life!
So the start of my journey is really to start seeing where Im really not being true to myself, and work on changes with that.
