To add to what Jack said, also be aware that both the BS and WAS are getting "advice" and support from a multitude of sources.
the common thread for all the sources (except here) is that as friends/family, they are doing whatever they can to expedite your relief from pain.
They simply want the person they hold you to be to come back.
Their motivation is "the quick way" rather than the "right way"
Control is impossible Detach from the emotion of this Be your natural self Earn back your self-respect Assign responsibility equally Realize this process will improve you
