Accepting reality, moving on with my life

[breakdownbill]

Ok there's been some developments this weekend, which have helped me confirm that I am doing the right thing by filing for divorce.

This weekend my W was going out dancing on Saturday and then out to town afterwards with her friends (exactly what she said).

My W comes home at nearly 5am and stays downstairs not coming to bed. I wake up at about 8am and my W is wide awake and didn't even look like she'd had a drink. I asked her if her bf went out and she said no and wouldn't look me in the eye.

So I'm convinced that i'm not being told the truth because when she has been to town and comes back at that time she is completely wasted and a mess the next day.

I go to the atm to get money out and my print out showed that my w had only taken out a 20, so the sums were'nt adding up.

There was an elephant in the room and I said to her, 'we both know that you didn't go to town last night, so who where you with last night'? My W lied at first and then admitted she'd been with the OM at his place.

We had a bizzare R talk, mostly me saying that she was selfish and that she would regret these choices she was making and that we could have tried to work things out.

I said to her that the way she has treated me over the past year has been a form of cruelty and that if she had any respect for me, herself and her family she would wait until we had gone our separate ways.

I have no desire to be with this person as my W anymore. I want to remember the good times that we had as a couple and as a family, but this is no way to live.

I am standing by my decision to file, I know it was the right call for me and I could never trust this person again now.

Oh and not that age should matter I found out that the OM is actually 52 - 20 years older than her. Some life choices are just messed up, I'm not looking back and I am rolling on with plan D.

Bill