So I titled my new thread as such because that's the journey all LBS's are on, after the MLCer jumps on the Mother ship.
I wanted to start a discussion on how as individuals we learn about our own authenticity.
We start from ground zero, 666th level of hell, rock bottom, you name it, we're picking ourselves up and learning to march on despite the betrayel and hurt we've suffered from our marriages falling apart.
It dawned on me that I have not been living authentically most of my life. Meaning that Im always involved with someone, or something that goes against my very core values.
Im off in woo-woo land today, but bare with me.
Im actually seeing the Ying and Yang thing with this MLC/LBS situation. Detatchment and objectivity is SO AWESOME! When detatchment is really under way, it clears out alot of the negative for you to see your situation for what it really is.
What Im seeing is how XH's flipping out and sling shotting around the moon into MLCville has been and is being such a wonderful teacher and on going lesson for me. How? I see my XH having a severe identity crisis because he never knew how to live authentically. What he's doing is an insane attempt to try and gain that! I see the searching for authenticity and joy by frantically trying to manipulate his external environment to go by his bidding.
And yet don't we all do that? If we had a different car, job, spouse, house, more money, children, no children, hair style, etc, my husband came back, my wife came back, then we'd be happy?
My perception is that we're leading as examples to the MLCer/LBS. We see the MLCer and hands down we realize this is NOT WHAT TO DO as we question ourselves, our lives, and identity. If he MLCer eventually does start to wake up, then if we've learned to live authentically in the wake of the destruction they left behind for us, we can lead as an example to them.
So my question to all is, since your MLCers have left, how have you started to live your life authentically?
