Thanks for responding to my question, AT. No, for the most part, it wasn't rhetorical. My basis for the question was in line with the thinking laid out in labug's post:
Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.
I do understand that this is very hard for you. But if you need to make yourself feel better by tearing down your W, or converse with someone that is, then what have you gained? There should be a way to handle this situation while still treating your W with the same dignity and respect with which you would like to be treated. If you accept ANY ownership for the course of your R, which I believe you do, then you should drop the character assassination and defend her against those that are. Remember the part about fighting for her? Well this ain't it. If I was your W and read any of this conversation, and your participation in it, there would be no reconciliation. Period.
It's one thing to seek advice on what you should do or how you should handle the situation. It's another thing entirely to listen to someone trash your W. The best way you can feel good about yourself is by acting in manner that warrants it.
