The last week has been interesting. We're into our 4th week of 50-50 custody of the kids (weekly intervals). 3 weeks ago when I had the kids W did not even call them. I think I mentioned this before, but D15 said she suspected W was "up to something", didn't think it was an OM but probably out partying with her enabler friend. That doesn't bother me, W needs to get it out of her system. Anyway, she had her week of custody 2 weeks ago and then last week they were with me again. Here is a summary of what happened last week during my custody:
Sunday- W turns kids over Monday- W calls both kids to talk (didn’t call at all during her previous week of visitation as far as I know) Tuesday- texts me that she offered to help D15 with a project and show S9 the puppy, asks to come by. Spends about 2 hours at my house. Wednesday- I drop D15 off at church. W calls later and says she’s right by the church and asks if it’s OK to pick D15 up and take her to her house to decorate a shirt. I say 'no' because we already had plans for dinner. Thursday- I’m mowing the yard, come around the corner and there’s W getting out of her car. I ask her “what’s up?” and she says she’s picking up D15 to work on the shirt. Takes her at around 7 and brings her back around 10:30. Friday- asks if it’s OK for S9 to spend night with her, says he wants to see puppy (he ends up not wanting to go). We all go to game together to watch D15 perform that night. Saturday/ Sunday- we all go to visit D18 at college, then go to visit my sister and her new baby, W's idea.
W has kids again as of last night. S9 did not want to go to her house at all, so I have a feeling he's going to be a challenge for her this week. I'm not sure what to make of her behavior, seemed like W was embracing the single life briefly but is now falling back into wanting the family life. Also, when we were on the long drive we made small talk and I asked her about her enabler friend (the one D15 suspected she was partying with) and she said she hasn't talked to her in a while. I also asked about the previously-mentioned guy that she showed some earlier interest in and she hasn't talked to him in a while either. Sure she could be lying, but I know both these people so it's not unusual for us to talk about them and what they're up to. Also, she received and made only 2 or 3 text messages all weekend and they were with D18. When she was closer to the enabler they were constantly texting back and forth, so I think she's being truthful about her NC comment.
Other than that, she's shown no baby steps towards interest in me. We're getting along fine, conversations are pleasant enough. But that's no change over the last few months. She did call me "babe" once over the weekend, but I think it was an accidental slip into old habits so I'm not reading anything into it. She also almost grabbed my shoulder once when talking to me in the car, but caught herself. This has been kind of ongoing with her where she sometimes forgets and does something personal like she used to. Obviously my going dim has been hampered by her constant contact regarding the kids. Since she has them this week I'll be back to dim status.
Still just a waiting game to see if she starts warming up. My greatest challenges are A) having patience and B) keeping hope alive.
