Well, I finally asked H if he was still contacting the OW and he said yes that he talks to her every once in awhile. Said he didn't deserve me and he knows that he is continuing to hurt me by not stopping the communication. Mentioned separating for a while as he hates to come home sometimes to face what he's done. (blah blah)I didn't make a big deal about it. Just took it all in and kept that in my think tank. Told him if he wanted to separate that would be his decision. He cried immensely, I think there may have been something going on with him and the OW to initiate that but I cant be sure. We've been spending more time together talking, going out, ML, etc.etc. but he still leaves the house and is gone for several hours especially on Sundays which seems to be his designated day for himself. He is also not completely focusing on his job. Last night he left the house around 3:00, I was already gone visiting relatives and got home around 5:00. I checked to see if H was going to be home for dinner. H said he was visiting his sister and they would probably have dinner together. I don't believe that but I said okay. I kept busy, trying to get my house back in order as I have neglected the upkeep, did some laundry, then went out and had dinner alone around 8:00. I got home around 10:00 and went to bed. I'm not sure what time H came home but he woke me up and said, "thank you for giving me my space tonight". I assume he said that because I did not text him while he was out nor did I question where he was going or when he'd be home. He smelled like beer and cigarettes and wanted to ML. H is not doing anything around the house such as yard work and simple repairs. It's almost like he can't sit still sometimes. He's giving off so many mixed signals. I continue to work on detaching but I get sucked in so many times. I need to get a better grip on my emotions. One of us has to have some self control.
