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[Wendylon]

So I am not sure what is happening but I really have been much more settled and calm both yesterday and today. I love this!

That's wonderful. Enjoy it.

I am not sure if I should be being friendly and verbally affectionate because frankly I wasn't before so that is a 180 for me or if the best thing is really just to stop all of it.

I'm not sure when you're referring to when you say 'before'. Do you think that being friendly makes it harder for him to see what he'd be losing by not returning to the R?

Maybe I will try being less available the next few days. Unfortunately, our schedules are such that he is around quite a bit and frankly that helps all of us.

Certainly, you can try out a different way of being around him things and monitor the results. Are you thinking of being less available, and less friendly and less verbally affectionate? Will you still listen and validate? I'm just not sure how dim you're thinking of becoming.

I never know though how long to give a sitch before you can tell if your new actions are leading anywhere positive or not. I hope it won't be too hard to tell in your case.

Anyway, good luck and keep us posted!