Back to Square One?

[Wendylon]

Thank you, MKB, for your encouragement! There have been some positives.

I'm flabbergasted because H commented on me being different this morning.

H: I'm not sure what's happening but you're so different.
Me: Really? Good or bad?
H: Good, of course.
Me: Give me an example.
H: Yesterday when I mentioned visiting your Dad and Stepmother you didn't jump in immediately to tell me why I shouldn't go. That's unheard of. It's as strange as turning on a switch and the light not turning on when it has 99.99 % of the time. I felt for the first time in god knows how long that you figured it was my decision. What have you done?
Me: Well, I didn't rehearse that response... Not sure... Hope it's not a one off.
H: I'm sure you didn't rehearse it because there are other things too..

Anyway, I felt that I'd seemed a bit too interested in H's views and was fishing a bit so left the bathroom (he was in the bath and had even asked me to go in there and sit on the loo so we could talk).

Also, another positive was that when I got home yesterday he wasn't out for the first time in ages on a Sunday around 6. He was actually watching football with S17 on the TV and hadn't been drinking!

Let's hope that I keep this up. Certainly I'm encouraged to stay on track with no pursuing, questioning, etc.. Let me know if you think I've missed some opportunities in the convo. I think I could do with validating more. That really doesn't come to me naturally.