'll update more later, but here's another mindreading from W regarding kids. STOP the mindreading! Don't do more of it....please, stop the cycle and that has to begin with you. She is not here posting. You are.
I was on my way out to the store and -------- So I explained to her that that's not my intentions taking the kids or spending time with them it just the kids have been home all day and---I'm just not sure where she's getting this idea? Any thoughts? You're right though this is mindreading and I will let it go, but it just really made me think. "Made" you think...think what? That you both mind read and dont' speak clearly or directly or to each other? That's what I got out of this post. The mind reading is so inefficient. I would not waste ANY time on it....for real. NONE.
About the GAL involving OW, I'm dropping that. I had lunch with our group again last Friday, and that OW made some comments to me that I felt uncomfortable and will not put myself in a situation where it spell bad news. Good. Enough said, I hope. Maybe next year. Women will still exist if and when your marriage is over. Trust me on that. And you will be in a much better position to date if you work on yourself and the marriage FIRST...
And then regarding this:
WHY do you believe WE want you to GAL? Why do we hammer it so much?
What is the purpose of GAL, to YOU?
I have to think about this one. I am having trouble GALing alone because of my fears of what W would think and blame me further. GAL is not done alone. Oh Sure, you may work out and exercise or get therapy, "alone" - but otherwise, GAL is not done alone. IMO, it mandates OTHER PEOPLE in your life.
I think the purpose is so that I can get my mind off the sitch to keep my sanity and so that I would feel better about myself.
Am I off? Not completely. GAL is done for several reasons and we hammer it for those reasons.
Not said in any order, here the reasons I think we GAL:
1) To get/stay busy so we don't obsess, which is protective of ourselves.
2) to help us detach (see above)
3) to do things WE wanted to do anyhow, like our own "bucket list" b/c it helps our self esteem AND our social life
4) the more we learn to life our self esteem, the healthier we become
5) the more we GAL, the more interestING and interestED we become, as individuals
6) the more we GAL and meet OPs, the more our WAS MAY find us less predictable. That is usually a good thing. It's occasionally a great thing.
7) the more we GAL and meet OPs, the stronger we feel about ourselves (because we ARE stronger and more aware of our gifts)
AND the better, more attractive partners WE become.
on an unrelated topic--really another lawyer?! I had a feeling though I think I read somewhere that you mentioned you are a lawyer...It's just i read so may sitch here and I can't remember which one was it
25 good to hear from you. Hope this helps.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
