Hi LittleWings- I am pretty much in the same situation. I am new here. My posts have not been approved by the moderator yet. But I am in your shoes. How do I save a marriage when I am trying to do the 180 and he's living with his mistress and takes all these great vacays togeher? Feeling hopeless right now and trying hard not to. The quote a dear friend of mine texted me this am was, "If you love someone set them free, if they come back they are yours forever. If they don't they were never really ever supposed to be yours." While this is true, it hurts at the same time. My H is making horrible decisions and somewhow we are supposed to be cool,calm, and collected. I am trying, but it's really tough. My H acts as if though our 13 years never happened.Its so surreal and hurtful. My questions are the same as yours. Plus if I show my H that I am fine he uses it as the excuse that I am totally great and I have moved on when in fact he knows that I want him to come home. Very frustrating! Any help or advice is appreciated!
