ro, i wish my MIL cared enough about me to do that. you're very lucky to have a MIL who will make the call to comfort you when it has to be uncomfortable for her.
you've only been married 3 years to my 15. i've not heard one word from my MIL nor my H's three sisters. all of whom i've done so much for and give so much to.
your MIL has character.
Which makes this whole thing even more sad. We aren't that close, and for her to tell me all that did mean something. I also made me realize I am losing part of my family, just like I told H.
I made the mistake of telling my mom, sis, and aunt that MIL had called. I got everything from I'm glad she called to don't believe what she said and you never have to go to her house again (We have at least 2 - 3 gatherings with both families every year). My mother was the worst. I know part of it is that she's been hurt by men herself. I finally had to tell them (again) that I didn't want them picking sides and this was between H and I. Guess I won't be sharing much anymore.
My aunt saw SS at the fair last night and she said he came right up to them and hugged her and everything like things were normal. I love that kid! I still haven't talked to him since he doesn't have a phone, and he hasn't responded to my FB message. So I feel bad about that.
And then the question of how dark to stay. H wanted to keep in contact and I told him that it would be hard for me, so we probably shouldn't. He didn't like it but agreed. Which means I'll have to be the first to initiate contact, which DB says not to do. We need to have the finance conversation soon, too. I'm at a loss as to what to do during all this. Call or not call? Write an email, don't write anything?
