I am torn between encouraging and fostering a good co-parenting arrangement and enabling. She can contact the karate teacher or get a schedule of her own. YOU are NOT responsible for giving her notice. Period.
The more you take on HER responsibilities, the more you enable her to avoid them.
You can tell her this to "avoid future miscommunications" SHE can get her own info And assume responsibility for knowing HER only child's schedule.
I am conflicted as to why she tried texting me last week, the one i didn't get and therefore did not respond to. Irrelevant. Spend no time on this^^^...you don't even know if it's true.
I am confused if she is reaching out for help with her drinking, due to my friends wife having overdosed and now being in a coma for 7 days. Is that what she momentarily was seeking from me? WE CANNOT KNOW so you'll have to get an actual legit sign from her, maybe more than one alleged text...you can't mind read all this. It's wasteful and it is counter productive. Kind of like letting your business fall apart...focus on what you CAN control...which is just you.
I may have made a mistake by not exclusively validating her feelings, by adding in how much i cared when i saw her doing the same thing to herself and that i was helpless to do anything about it.
Should i now contact her and see how her feelings are doing?
Thank you so much for the supportive words and understanding.
Ed
I'd forward her the info so she can keep up with son's schedule. Verify that she gets it and then drop it.
You'll still see her when SHE takes responsibility for seeing son. Those interactions can be positive if you are strong.
The needier you are, the less likely she is to look to you for support.
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