I am working on my plans. Haven't shared them with X.
My S22 has decided he wants to come with me. He thinks his life will be complete if he can just go camping and try to survive all alone in the wilderness. I think he is crazy.
And trying to ruin my plans to get some alone time to contemplate my navel. Exactly how am I supposed to enjoy a retreat if I am wondering did a bear eat my 'not as wilderness ready' as he thinks son?
I reminded him he just got a job. And we had agreed he would try this camping/survival thing next summer. After he saves up some money and pays for the damage he did recently by kicking a hole in the bathtub. And after he comes to me with a realistic plan that shows me he has any real knowledge about wilderness survival. Because watching watching various reality TV shows about it does not count as knowledge. Nor does having beaten every video game ever sold.....
I was a Girl Scout, an Explorer Scout and a leader in the Boy Scouts. I did some advanced training. And I used to read all sorts of survival stories. And I don't feel anywhere near ready to do something like that. Although I do believe if I had to survive out in the wilderness I would stand a chance..... MAYBE!
I am tired of everyone putting their needs before mine. My son is 22, a technically full grown man. He has not yet supported himself and is pretty much making me crazy. I am trying to plan something to help myself out. I am stressed out beyond belief.
My biggest worry with this D is what is going to happen to the kids. That is a silly worry. My oldest and his wife are fully independant. I buy them soy milk and bread sometimes. They would survive without my help. I don't know what to do with S22.
Except let him go out into the wilderness and starve to death and/or get eaten by a bear....
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
Take heart, Wendy. They do move on, eventually. It seems nowadays, it's more difficult for kids to get on with their lives after graduating high school. I'm not sure why.
My S25 has still not found his job for life. He works on cruise ships when in dry dock, all over the world, fixing things, building new restaurants, etc. He works hard, gets paid well, but in between jobs, he doesn't do much. And it could be a couple of months between the cruise jobs. He's moved out of our house, so at least, he has that sort of independence. At 22 my son was still at home, and up to last year, I paid up an account he couldn't pay. I'm not interested in paying his stuff anymore.
I still have D19 (soon to be 20) at home, but she's at school, and she does try hard to stretch her work dollars. She buys her own clothes now, and pays for her gas. She even tries to buy her own college books. We're going to graduate together, if I can get all my coursework done.
It's hard to be tough, but sometimes we have to be, if we want a life of our own. But, I'm the last one to talk. I am a total softy. My H was the main disciplinarian.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Today I realized I am still super depressed. I keep trying to get out of this funk, and it just doesn't happen.
I sure hope my upcoming get away helps my attitude. I was reading the rules for the retreat. This is going to be interesting. I can live without drugs and alcohol, I think I can go vegetarian for a week, but asking me to not wear perfume? Seriously?
Anyway, it is a "Spiritual Retreat" and I think I really need it right now. I plan to take a small quilt to work on, hand quilting is one thing I do thast really calms me down. Something about keeping my hands busy.
I am thinking the vegetarian thing will be a nice break for my body. I have a hard time eating they way I should knowing I have diastolic dysfunction. I actually found the retreat while searching for a raw foods, sprouting type thing. I figure that maybe if I get a week under my belt of eating right I will feel so good I will want to continue.
Or my body will say "Hell NO!" And I will make a break for the nearest fast food place and prove that I am a food addict!
I hope everyone is having a nice weekend!
Aloha,
Wendy
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
You should be taking CoQ10 and D-ribose - two supplements that can help strengthen your heart muscle. Plus go read the stopthethyroidmadness website - your depression might be related to inadequate thyroid treatment, you'd be surprised how much better some people do with a little T3 in their systems.
I found out awhile back that I have thyroid problems. It seems all I want to do is sleep and I have no energy at all. Wonder if this could be due to my thyroid? I no the energy thing is a symptom....I think anyway.
Sunshine - Fatigue, weight gain, depression, constipation, dry skin, thinning hair, mental "fog" - all possible symptoms of thyroid disease.
Most mainstream doctors do not treat thyroid disease adequately - look at that Stopthethyroidmadness website for more info. Also, at least one out of five thyroid patients also has an issue with gluten sensitivity (1 in 20 have full-blown celiac disease). Every thyroid patient should be tested for celiac disease, and if the test is normal, then they should try a gluten-free diet for a month to see if they have milder gluten sensitivity. (Don't do the diet before the test, as the celiac test can be negative if you're not eating any gluten).
Thanks Ellie. I do take CoQ10. I will write down the D-ribose on my shopping list.
I have been on thyroid supplements for 10 years now. I have an upcoming appointment with a guy who perscribes natural thyroid supplements. I did go to that website, when you tols me about it before. And saw that my thyroid may be being treated wrong.
Yes LaBug, I told him NO! I felt a little bad, but it isn't my problem!
Right now I'm thinking about what to do today. Get out of the house and not be in such a slump is my main objective!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
