How long will you live like this Sunny? I agree she has her issues and can't see straight. I agree it is not right. But I see in your posts a sense of stress a feeling of helplessness. You seem to be having a hard time suppressing the anger.
I am not at all surprised.
When I was in that situation, I did similar to you. I did it for a reason - I needed to see. I needed to be the one that did NOT leave. I needed to be the man and I needed to look out for my kids. I knew it was not "normal" behavior for her. Eventually, she couldn't take it anymore and left. Twice. I don't regret the way I handled things, but it was highly stressful. I'm still dealing with the fall out of the stress.
Have you determined how far you'll go before you say enough is enough and kick her out?
I know that's normally what you hear on these boards. I also know that you are not a doormat and are trying to figure things out in a murky environment.
As you saw in 25's post, there were times when she questioned and set timelines. We all do to some degree.
Have you already? Have you set a boundary for you that if crossed, is the end of your attempts and waiting?
What are they?
If you feel I am not helping, please say so and I will not ask again. It'll be ok to do that as well. I know you are in a tough situation and I know the stress you are putting yourself under trying to make things work. I do not want to add to that but I do want to help in any way I can.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
