My Most Important Week Yet

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See CV I think you are posting advice to AT on what you want to happen in your life.

See one thing we do know is that AT was clingy and it did not work.

The other thing we know is that his wife likes to play the blame game with AT.

The other thing we know is that AT needed to learn that he is not an option.

You see one big thing in all this DB'ing is that you are negotiating with your spouse what is acceptable and what is not.

So if your going to let him play daddy and husband for a couple hours a day. Light up like he is the most important person in the world when he is cheating on you. Guess what. He is going to enjoy the free food. Think the kids and you are ok with it then go live his life again. He also learns that if he breaks up with the OM that he can just come home. Expect you to keep with the focusing on him as the centre of your universe. And the moment you do not. He steps out again to put you back in your place.


AT's wife is now learning that she is not in-charge anymore. That she cannot just go do what ever the heck she wants without any consequences. She is learning that AT is not going to fix her issues. He is not going to embrace her with open arms the moment she says he should.

She is going to feel the concept of Loss. She is going to lose AT. Unless she works hard on herself to improve the person she is. Cause at this moment she is a horrible wife and a cheater. She has the choice to work or be lazy. If she does not feel the concept of loss then truly AT is better off without her. Just a bad choice and AT will need to work on making sure he does not get involved with another woman who has those traits.

Most people will take the lazy path with you if you let them.