I agree with Denver, I would do the guy thing. I've notice a lot of lawyers on here as well. I know we are not always easy to live with. My H is forever telling me to stop cross-examining him, and I'm not even a trial lawyer.
When all of this started for me, I put on some CDs while I was in the shower and sang along to try to take my mind off of it. It worked and put me in a better mood. I turned off the radio in the car and switched to CDs because every song on the radio was either a sappy love song or a break up song.
We have a prayer tower in my town and I would go there and write a letter to God and read the Bible. I am not a very religious person, but I found this helped me to let go a little bit and recognize that I cannot control the outcome. Maybe try something like that on your own?
I also get the attitudes that make me wonder what I did wrong. It is hard to understand when you walk in the door, but try not to take it personally. I am finally getting better at not letting my H's attitude affect me, but I am know I am not completely detached.
M44 H57 D17 (special needs) M 18 yrs Bomb 7/2/12 Still living together
I agree with Denver, I would do the guy thing. I've notice a lot of lawyers on here as well. I know we are not always easy to live with. My H is forever telling me to stop cross-examining him, and I'm not even a trial lawyer.
When all of this started for me, I put on some CDs while I was in the shower and sang along to try to take my mind off of it. It worked and put me in a better mood. I turned off the radio in the car and switched to CDs because every song on the radio was either a sappy love song or a break up song.
We have a prayer tower in my town and I would go there and write a letter to God and read the Bible. I am not a very religious person, but I found this helped me to let go a little bit and recognize that I cannot control the outcome. Maybe try something like that on your own?
I also get the attitudes that make me wonder what I did wrong. It is hard to understand when you walk in the door, but try not to take it personally. I am finally getting better at not letting my H's attitude affect me, but I am know I am not completely detached.
Hopeful, Another lawyer, just how many are here? Lol. Thanks for your opinions th helps.
Anyway I just did my exercise this morning and cycle with the group and did 55miles. Im losing weight 10 more lbs to my healthy weight.
I can relate to the music thing you are talking about, one day I just put my hard rock music because of they were playing green day, I think its called "I hope you have time of your life". I was freakin crying and driving. I'm like WTF and switch to hard rock. I mean I like green day but that song is not suited right now.
Yep I already told my buddy I'm coming over. My W ask why I'm not going and I just said I'll visit my mom.
I just know I'll miss my kids. We normally go to these kind of gathering. I gotta be strong! I'm doing this for them.
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
Just catching up...about the cold stare, it might not be about you. Don;t read things into her actions or anyone else's actions for that matter.
Thanks for catching up labug! Yes you are right but sometimes those stare could be so piercing. Anyway, after a while last nigh, I diffused it with "how was your day".
And the 180s keep comin!
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
It's gotta be those billable hours Denver hahahah... Bill bill bill, especially in trial, 15 hour days lol. Hmmm but I'm not sure if you bill if you're in criminal law.
Unbidden you too?!
I'm not a lawyer though but I'm in the legal field. I guess you can count me in the "trend".
I GAL'd today but will update tomorrow when my mind is clear
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
Its sort of like being married to a combination of a tick, shark, worm and prostitute all rolled into one.
I liked that one as well. When my H talks about doing anything around the ocean, I tell him he needs me along for professional courtsey in case he falls out in shark infested water.
M44 H57 D17 (special needs) M 18 yrs Bomb 7/2/12 Still living together
