My 46-yr-old drug addicted husband missed another chance to see our daughter cheerleading yesterday. On the way home, I saw his truck at the drug-addicted OW's apt.
He has missed prom, both the kids' birthdays and has seen our 10-yr-old, maybe?, five times total in the last 8 months. He has essentially deserted everything for his new lifestyle of drugs and the OW.
A few weeks back our 18-year-old daughter who is enraged at us and everything for the insanity, flipped out for the umpteenth time and became really scary. When she loses it, she screams obscenities, throw things, gets violent.
Well, she started her tirade and I told her I had had enough. She threw something at me and I called 911. While I was on the phone with 911, she slapped me on the head twice. When the deputies came, they arrested her for domestic violence. She spent the weekend in jail. This morn we discovered the newspaper printed her name in the sheriff's log. She is so lost already, I'm angry, overwhelmed, sick to my stomach... How did my life become this? We were the house everyone loved to visit. This could impact my daughter's job, my job, etc...
And, where's the cause of all this tumult? He's at his girlfriend's smoking weed and getting drunk. Addicts sit in the eye of the storm while the rest of us fly around in the hurricane. My daughter is so angry and I don't blame her.
None of us deserved this. He stays comfortably numb.
Hang in there, find an Al-Anon meeting, it helps. It also helps in terms of what to tell your kids.
Heather
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
