I'm happy that you understand that you take the DB guidelines and the advice that you get here and you tailor all of it to fit your unique sitch. When we first come here, it is all very overwhelming. Then when you get multiple opinions about something that all differ, it can become difficult to make your own decisions. I know for a fact that I frustrated the hell out of some of those who were helping me because I didn't follow the advice line for line all of the time... probably no one more so than Starsky. But I came to believe that we have to use our instincts. I think that you are learning to do that.
The only reason that I have been so outspoken about Crazy's posts on your thread is because I agree with what Starsky said. It won't work. That's my opinion of course, but it is a strong one. There may come a time when her way may fit the situation, or it may be you have to try it if this turns out to be a cheeseless tunnel. I do think that you need to be consistent and give whatever strategy you pick enough time to assess its effectiveness.
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