Starsky and CV: I value each of you and the advice you give. I definitely feel it is VERY helpful to hear multiple perspectives on this and any sitch...
Honestly, for a little while here, I felt almost paralysed by the differences between what I thought was right and the advice I was getting... I felt I couldn't make a move without screwing up, so I asked the boards for advice on EVERYTHING...
Now, while I'll continue to do that (ask advice) I no longer feel paralysed by the feedback I get. I get that every situation is unique, and there is no one size fits all plan for success... But there are definitely patterns and odds at play here.
Foes that mean I'll follow all the advice I get? Absolutely not... Just this morning, I heard almost unanimously that I shouldn't respond to the text... But after careful consideration, I decided that responding with a simple "glad you're home safe... And you're welcome" was the right thing to do... And you know what? It still feels right to me... It will help me sleep tonight, knowing that I made that decision, and I can't see much harm in it...
But again, I value all the advice and I greatly appreciate different points of view. If someone is going to get pissed that I don't follow their advice, well that's their issue. I honestly don't think anyone that's commented on my sitch would feel that way.
I have a TON to think about over the next few days... And I've decided, beyond the shadow of a doubt that I'll be dark during that period. It makes no sense to me to make ANY decisions in my current mental state.
My current thinking is going dark for the foreseeable future is the correct path for me and for my situation... But that opinion could change... I'm going to take my time, weigh out my options carefully, and consider every opinion I can get... Then I'll make a decision and go with it.
Thanks to so many on this board, and especially Denver, Starsky and Chatterbug, I was able to solidify my thoughts and opinions and stand up for myself and my marriage this weekend. I'm proud of the way I acted, even the parts where I knew I "backslid".
I need to let this weekend set in for a while before deciding next steps.
And I can't wait to read each and every opinion that comes out in the meantime!
