Your comment re 'its not the girl I married' is so true. I see it in her. She is still changing. I needed this stand to make me see that. For her to let the anger out properly gave me a glimpse of how she feels about me - she does not care.
There are also v strong signs of EA/possible PA that may have been going on for some months as well. Not sure how to deal with other than set boundaries. I am staying surprisingly calm about it reading these posts-like I should have expected it. But all the talk re not dating etc was prob garbage.
She has now moved into spare room. Suspect another reminder that we are really done. She knows I wld not leave the marital bed. It feels like a pressure being taken off as the intimacy obviously had gone.
I do not feel like everything is crumbling around me anymore.
