25, I addressed some of your questions earlier today. Here's a couple more. I am sure there's others so please let me know.
So, who’s the new you?
It’s still evolving 25. I haven’t been in charge of the bills for so long, I am learning a lot about finances, budgeting, etc.. The new me is learning how to be more independent. In a sick kind of way, this sh!t probably helped save me. The new me is identifying boundaries, what they mean, the value in them. Even though I am a bit week, the new me is becoming much stronger of a person. I am learning how to face things head on and not be so manipulative. I am learning the importance of self respect and how respect is earned. How can I show her that man?
Well, making more money would be extremely helpful. I am giving me job until the end of the year before I make a commitment to find something else. Since our separation I’ve been consistently paying W the monthly amount we agreed upon. I think if I can find a way to step up, go above and beyond, that would be really important. Pay for stuff that I usually don’t pay for like the kids clothes, etc... How can I be that man?
Hopefully I am starting to outline it. I know Ive learned a ton over the last couple months. Right now I am really trying to grasp and understand how the “emotional intimacy” thing works. To be quiet honest, it’s not a subject I’ve looked into much. The article Denver recently posted was really good but I still have a lot more to learn about the topic.
Is it b/c you know you are so not ready for a r with OW?
[color:#CC0000]Do you see any patterns in how you feel and interact with your w, or don't, and then how you start "needing" to be with the ladies even while claiming to be working on the m? ANY patterns?
I think it’s showing a pattern of confusion at several level. I am confused on how to interact with W right now. I am confused about how I feel about W right now.
