W just messaged me that she booked her week long retreat. How should I respond to it? I responded indifferent about it at first now she is being short with me lol. But I don't feel right telling her I'm glad about it when I think it's the wrong.way.to figure this out.
Me - 30 W - 28 M 4 t 6 ILYBINILWY #1 Jan - 2011 Band-aid Jan 11' ILYBINILWY #2 7/28/12
Also W was talking about taking the dogs. But I know I can take care of them while I am still working. I don't want her to take them because then I will be without her and them for a week...
I still think she is going about this trip with the wrong mindset. If she feels relieved, which of course she will because she won't be in as uncomfortable of a sitch, then of course her natural instinct is going.to be that we are better apart.
If you have a car that has a set of bad tires and needs a set of brakes but the 95% remaining are in great shape you don't scrap the car you fix the little things and keep it going.
Me - 30 W - 28 M 4 t 6 ILYBINILWY #1 Jan - 2011 Band-aid Jan 11' ILYBINILWY #2 7/28/12
God now I am controlling those panicky feelings but it feels so bad, like I am holding onto her for dear life... Wow that's a lot of needless worry I have to let go of still.
Me - 30 W - 28 M 4 t 6 ILYBINILWY #1 Jan - 2011 Band-aid Jan 11' ILYBINILWY #2 7/28/12
get yourself to Essential Experience asap and I mean YOU, not her.
She's doing her own thing, so why don't you? Trust me, going to it will make the panicking stop and you'll be more confident and at peace with you, then ever.
it's quite profound.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Expectations are low, but lots of talk about our M and Wedding. Lol. Man this is strange. I will continue to be upbeat, happy and enjoyable to be around. I am projecting positivity.
Me - 30 W - 28 M 4 t 6 ILYBINILWY #1 Jan - 2011 Band-aid Jan 11' ILYBINILWY #2 7/28/12
Sooooooo last night definitely did not have any expectations but I definitely did feel very down towards the end of the night. I didn't show it and I was the poster boy for happy to lucky. I talked and hung around multiple people and made sure to have a good time.
W and I slow danced a song and it felt amazing. I miss her so much.
More and more I have this underlying feeling that she wants this to be over, but she keeps talking about future plans and ideas. It's sooooooo mixed. I know people talk about letting go of the rope. How do you all know when your getting to that point?
I don't want to move out, I don't want to leave our bed, but I know I will eventually start to be resentful and mad and I don't want that either. Such crazy emotions this sitch has me going through.
Me - 30 W - 28 M 4 t 6 ILYBINILWY #1 Jan - 2011 Band-aid Jan 11' ILYBINILWY #2 7/28/12
