M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
I told you she (25) was tough, but she does have a way of holding that mirror in front of you in a way that you can't avoid your own reflection. Not always a pretty sight but a necessary step if you're serious about working on yourself.
Take care mate.
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
Hey Arsene, a good night last night, I just need to be careful. Your spot on about 25 holding the mirror and yes, it's not a pretty site but I need it!
25, thank you very much. I just read No More MR Nice Guy, wow! What an eye opener! It described me to a tee!! I am slowly trying to put the pieces together, it's been a very difficult learning curve. I know you choose your words carefully. I havent forgot about your questions. I will address them today.
Here’s where I am at. I am understanding I twist things sometimes, maybe a better term for it is manipulative. The crappy part of it all is that I just do it without even realizing what I am doing, not a good thing. I just started seeing an IC, which I really need.
I was supposed to be the man of the house and I failed at that. By default, W took charge of running things and most women don’t want that responsibility.
I never set boundaries and I just wanted to “make peace.” I was always so proud of myself for being “level headed.” I thought being non confrontational was a positive trait in me. Well, I had it all wrong!
I am learning that setting boundaries are important, most likely they will be challenged and tested. I never learned to say, stop! That’s unacceptable. Because I had no boundaries W could walk all over me, like a doormat. From W’s point of view, I am sure her respect for me went out the window a long time ago.
I clearly remember W making a comment to me about 5 months ago and it’s seared in my mind. She simply said, “Rough means well.” I view that remark as an upercut. While money has been an issue for so long, I am also starting to realize there are so many things under the surface which never got addressed.
Don’t get me wrong, I am a masculine guy but I need to fu%ck!ng get my balls back!
Before W and I got separated I told a couple people that over the years I found myself loving my W more than ever. I had this twisted view that while many other relationships can start to dwindle, my love for W was just getting stronger. I was in denial. It’s unbelievable when I reflect on this, I had it sooooo wrong!
In all actuality, our marriage was slipping through my fingers, or marriage was in crumbles and I was pathetic, I just got needier and needier. I was searching for this emotional and physical connection that was nowhere in sight. I didnt know how to get out of this rut!
I was searching for this emotional and physical connection that was nowhere in sight. I didnt know how to get out of this rut!
Was it you that needed TOO much, or your W who did not give enough?
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
