When it comes to bills...that is the only time I would contact him. I would send him a text about the charge. I would also advise him that you are only contacting him because he advised you that he had cancelled the flight and if it was cancelled, it wasn't taken care of by the airlines. It could be that the charge was cancelled too late in the credit card cycle, but he could have also forgotten to cancel it as well.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I did send him an email about that, and also advised him on a payment made to this cc. I don't usually deal with financial stuff, but I insisted on getting in on the "action" so that, by the time we're divorced, I'll be up and running and not be a total moron. I still have to get my own cc, but my bank says I need to get a job first.
Strangely, my dental hygienist says she saw him downtown during the week, so I think he did come to town, but just didn't let me know. Why lie! Who knows!?
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
BeingMe, I'm glad you sent the email. I understand what you are saying about getting the financial stuff in order. You don't want cc bills hanging over your head when you are starting "fresh" in the world. He may not respond back to you because you may have caught him.
Why lie? I have a thought about why he may have been back in town. Maybe he wanted to come back into town unannounced so that he could observe you and your comings and goings unannounced. Maybe he thinks you have someone waiting in the wings since you've begun moving forward and wanting a divorce. An mlcer's mind is a strange machine because what we see as rational and the right thing to do, isn't always what they see or think should be done.
BTW, if he's the type that stretches the truth during the crisis, he'll continue to do so until he comes out the other side.
Hang in there!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I never thought of that, Snodderly. You may be right. He's not a jealous type, so I thought he'd come back for a date or something. Bleh!
Weirdly, he called me just to see how things are .... he hasn't done that in such a long time.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
First Thanksgiving without H. But, I will make it special for D19 and S25. And for me. I need to get me some single friends, so that I won't be moping around the house on weekends. Well, not mope so much as not getting out. Even homework needs to be left for an hour or two.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Habe a nice Thanksgiving! What is your favorite dish to prepare? I have a solid menu I crank out year after year. I invented a new pecan pie receipe a few years ago, but other than that the same thing. (Spicy Pecan Pie..... most excellent!)
I keep saying I need to get out more, but I just don't. But I am the sort who when the fire does get lit under me, stay out of the way!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
Thanks, Wendy. I don't really have a set menu ... I used to when all the kids were still at home, and I'd invite other family and friends for Thanksgiving. But, being on this island is far way from them, and so it's just the three of us. We'll probably play the usual games, or watch some movies. I think this year will be roast leg of lamb, roast potatoes, cauliflower, and brussel sprouts. Some ice cream for dessert, or something along those lines.
I know the feeling of butt-lighting ... once there, I'm off. It's just getting out of the house, and finding something to do. Today, I met a new friend (single lady, also divorced) from the author's group I belong to, and we sat at a coffee shop discussing our writings and other stuff all day. Then I went to dinner at another friend's house.
It was a good day, yet I'm feeling somewhat down. Not sure why.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
I have noticed that sometimes nice interactions with my friends are sometimes followed by sadness on the drive home. Maybe it is just that we are doing something different, not what we thought we would be doing?
Hang in there!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
I get that too!! Had an awesome thanksgiving weekend up north with my sister's family, their billets from Europe and my mom, but I cried three times on the drive home. Bugs the crap out of me.
me 45 H 46 T 5 M 2.5 BD Sept 6 2011 OW Sept 8 2011 Threw him out Sept 8 2011
