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Re: Sitting on the Blanket Tumbling #2286728 10/06/12 06:02 PM
Joined: May 2012 Posts: 2,595 B bustingout OP Member
OP bustingout Member B Joined: May 2012 Posts: 2,595	Had a good weekend. Lots of fun...a couple of invites on Thursday (the equivalent of a Friday for most) with friends, and on Friday had some friends over for BBQ and drinks. Today was book club. We read Heart of Darkness and Things Fall Apart. Really interesting conversation ensued and I enjoyed having that time to talk, think and analyze about things that have absolutely nothing to do with my sitch! At one of the invites i was at on Thursday, it was at the house of a couple who are/were close friends to me and H and the kids. The wife is BFF with OW. And while i have stated my boundaries to her in the past (I cannot choose who you are friends with but I would appreciate it if you don't invite me to your house when OW is there), and she has respected that, when i was there on Thursday, there were other people there that i know have condoned Hs A with OW. I got really uncomfortable and left early. Not in a huff...i just said i was tired and was going home. Made me realize that I am going to have to deal with such things regardless of what happens with H. I suppose i can just choose not to go to things where these people will be. And i do for the most part, but of course i will not always be able to know and of course i have no control over it. anyway, something to deal with I suppose... Overall I am feeling good still. I have been still wavering a bit with the waves. I don't speak to H a lot. When he calls for the kids I will chit chat sometimes, and sometimes not (my own decision), I end the convo first and I am pleasant. But i also..and I know this not very rational or does it sound very detached, but i also get scared when H is pleasant. I have wanted him to be pleasant for so long..and now he is definitely starting to...I can appreciate that some of it may be because of some of the changes i have made (not verbally recognized by H), but i also fear this ulterior motive from him.... you know...being nice so when the final bomb is delivered he is the nice guy being nice to his poor LBS. Makes me realize how much trust has eroded between us. And that I need to look at the bigger picture of how much better things have gotten in general. I think we are on solid ground with regard to the kids. he does respond to texts or emails about them whereas a few months ago he was MIA. I guess i just don't trust him with my heart right NOW. Have been following the recent discussion on Tumbling's thread. Its been really thought provoking for me. Lots to think about. I hope everyone is well! And is having a good weekend! TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home

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Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/25/12 06:39 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	Breakdown	09/25/12 07:01 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/25/12 07:04 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/25/12 07:17 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	needgrace	09/25/12 07:56 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/25/12 08:32 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	longrun	09/25/12 08:40 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	figure-it-out	09/25/12 09:19 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	afa75	09/26/12 12:34 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/26/12 06:11 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/26/12 06:24 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	JustStunned	09/26/12 08:25 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	scaredsilly	09/26/12 09:37 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/27/12 04:15 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/27/12 04:34 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	needgrace	09/27/12 08:09 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/27/12 09:12 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	labug	09/28/12 01:17 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/28/12 12:19 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	needgrace	09/28/12 03:06 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/28/12 03:50 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	needgrace	09/28/12 04:25 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/28/12 09:44 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	NLW	09/28/12 09:53 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	afa75	09/28/12 10:33 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	keep_going	09/29/12 02:35 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	needgrace	09/29/12 05:09 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/29/12 07:00 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	2chiquitos	09/29/12 07:23 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/29/12 07:47 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	needgrace	09/29/12 07:25 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	needgrace	09/29/12 07:29 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/29/12 07:48 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	zig	09/30/12 12:35 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	afa75	09/30/12 12:46 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/30/12 04:47 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/30/12 04:47 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	zig	09/30/12 06:04 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/30/12 07:44 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	keep_going	09/30/12 11:20 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	scaredsilly	10/01/12 01:10 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	~ kd ~	10/01/12 05:21 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	~ kd ~	10/01/12 05:23 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	keep_going	10/01/12 06:22 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	labug	10/01/12 01:50 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	zig	10/01/12 01:59 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/01/12 07:35 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	2chiquitos	10/02/12 05:03 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	labug	10/02/12 01:35 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/02/12 05:11 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	LITB	10/02/12 05:23 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	~ kd ~	10/02/12 05:58 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/02/12 06:17 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/02/12 06:24 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	LITB	10/02/12 06:27 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/02/12 07:13 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	Tumbling	10/02/12 07:53 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	needgrace	10/02/12 08:04 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/03/12 10:04 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/03/12 07:38 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	Tumbling	10/03/12 08:28 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/06/12 06:02 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	Tumbling	10/06/12 07:38 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/08/12 07:33 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	Tumbling	10/08/12 08:43 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	Jack_Three_Beans	10/08/12 09:22 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	scaredsilly	10/08/12 09:32 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	needgrace	10/08/12 09:34 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	StubbornDyke	10/09/12 02:04 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	jks	10/09/12 06:31 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/09/12 08:02 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/09/12 06:09 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	LITB	10/09/12 08:04 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	keep_going	10/10/12 01:02 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	needgrace	10/10/12 03:35 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/10/12 05:01 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	Jack_Three_Beans	10/10/12 05:11 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	needgrace	10/10/12 06:13 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	Cadet	10/10/12 06:25 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	Jack_Three_Beans	10/10/12 06:37 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/10/12 08:22 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/10/12 08:23 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	NLW	10/10/12 09:25 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	jks	10/10/12 09:35 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/12/12 08:20 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	Arsene	10/12/12 11:32 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/13/12 05:05 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/13/12 05:24 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/13/12 05:48 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	keep_going	10/13/12 07:03 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/13/12 09:47 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	Cadet	10/13/12 10:15 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/13/12 10:35 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	labug	10/13/12 01:56 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	Tumbling	10/13/12 04:48 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	StubbornDyke	10/13/12 05:50 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	afa75	10/14/12 12:23 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	Arsene	10/14/12 03:59 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	2chiquitos	10/14/12 05:23 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	needgrace	10/14/12 03:20 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/14/12 06:05 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	Arsene	10/15/12 01:52 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	Wendylon	10/15/12 07:20 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/15/12 10:23 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	keep_going	10/13/12 05:06 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/10/12 08:20 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/10/12 04:58 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/10/12 04:52 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	afa75	10/09/12 07:11 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/09/12 07:05 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	scaredsilly	10/06/12 08:23 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	needgrace	10/07/12 04:44 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	NLW	10/07/12 05:18 AM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	needgrace	10/07/12 03:58 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	2chiquitos	10/06/12 08:44 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	needgrace	10/02/12 06:28 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	10/02/12 07:16 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/29/12 06:49 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/29/12 06:56 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/29/12 06:46 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/27/12 04:10 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	bustingout	09/26/12 06:09 PM
Re: Sitting on the Blanket	StubbornDyke	09/27/12 12:17 AM

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