I see what you mean about how I've told her. As I've thought about some things I believe that I either tell her again and it pretty much becomes an ultimatum, which means I'll be having her move out, or I get back on track with DBing the way I was during the week.

Focus on the friendship but have no expectations of intamacy. Take the leap of faith and give her trust, which means getting rid of my sucpicions and "Act As If" because when I don't, I can feel the difference in myself. What I mean is that when I'm in the mood where I'm thinking something is going on my body is more tense and I know that way I approach her is different. When I let go of those feelings and I'm relaxed I act differently around and towards her and that's how I was during the past week when things started, ever so slightly, to get better.

I'm plowing through MMSLP and in some ways it's just like DBing, just focused on sex. I guess a lot of times I'm very beta and when I go alpha it's very agressive, I'm going to work on the balance and be alpha in calm self-confidence rather than agression.

“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln