Lifting my eyes to the hills...

[labug]

ss, that's why I said "if you love her, respect her". Sounds like that was missing from your R with your H's family.

But I also hear a lot of resentment and I get that. I've been much the same and here's what I've learned, it's a bit like gambling, if you can't afford to lose the money, don't do it.

In future, if I can't give something without expecting something in return, I won't be giving it.