My Most Important Week Yet

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Hey Alk, glad things went well for you and you're feeling strong and confident.

Again I'm going to add a woman's viewpoint and can say that I get CV's point. Especially if you look at it in terms of your whole marriage, not just since the affair. She probably has been looking for someone to be the knight on the white charger and didn't find it at home. There's a reason why ad campaigns for women have those shirtless men on horseback, it appeals to a part of the female brain in enough women that companies spend money on it. This is not a fantasy of being dragged to a castle and ravished it's about respect, someone who will stand up for you, someone who has your back, someone who does special things for you, someone who is completely focused an listening, at least some of the time, on you.

I'm not suggesting you spend the day obsessing about this because what's done is done and hopefully you've done your work to know where you went wrong and what you would do differently in your next R, no matter who it's with.

I'm also not condoning your W's choice to go outside the marriage, but all behavior has meaning and those who don't learn from the past are destined to repeat it. And sometimes a different viewpoint can be helpful.