bug, you are a wise woman. i wish i could give MIL and H's siblings a pass but i can't. for 16 years, i've been there for all of them. H and i are in much better financial shape then all of them and we've been very generous with them, not to mention a lot of physical labor and emotional support i've given to MIL over the years. she's had three incidents of cancer and i was with her for dr. appointments, surgeries, changed her bandages, etc.

it's so hard to reconcile that with the complete abandonment i've received from all of them since BD. a phone call from MIL telling me that she still cares about me would have been nice. she doesn't have to be on my "side" but a little human compassion would be appreciated.

if H and i do R, what they've done is to relieve me of any obligations to be a "family" member. it will be very liberating. i'll be able to concentrate on my real "family" more and my marriage. they're on their own, which is how they made me feel.

M:63
H:53
S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23
M:15
T:16

Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways."
H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12
12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing