Woody Allen once said, quoting Groucho Marx, that "I wouldn't want to belong to any club that would have someone like me for a member."
The response to your wife -- that you will SOMEDAY reiterate to her again -- is this:
"So let me get this straight: you responded to your unhappiness in our marriage by deciding to have an affair, and when I found out about it, I was supposed to . . . woo you? Fight for you? Be okay in an open marriage? What? I'm sorry, but not only would that violate my OWN boundaries of personal integrity, but I don't even understand how you would WANT to be married to someone who WOULD do that. Maybe your OM will be that for you, but that's not me, and frankly I LIKE me right now."
Someday.
Starsky
Starsky, I'm gonna need another script... because I delivered that one yesterday... practically verbatim! I literally hit every single one of those points, even the jab at OM. It's nice to feel validated... No matter the sting that is sinking in the longer this morning drags on.
It's nice to feel validated... No matter the sting that is sinking in the longer this morning drags on.