She would be behaving in an entirely different manner, ie, depression, reaching out, etc. Not going on vacation with an OM.
BTW, this sounds an awful lot like she was doing the GAL'g proposed by DB to the LBS'ers.
WTF??? So you're saying that Michele Weiner-Davis' teaching about "GAL" is that you're supposed to hook up with someone else while you're still married??!
Unbelievable.
Ignore the background noise, Alk -- you did great. Enabling wayward princess behavior is no way to DB.