My Fears in GALing

[hopefulinga]

I agree with Denver, I would do the guy thing. I've notice a lot of lawyers on here as well. I know we are not always easy to live with. My H is forever telling me to stop cross-examining him, and I'm not even a trial lawyer.

When all of this started for me, I put on some CDs while I was in the shower and sang along to try to take my mind off of it. It worked and put me in a better mood. I turned off the radio in the car and switched to CDs because every song on the radio was either a sappy love song or a break up song.

We have a prayer tower in my town and I would go there and write a letter to God and read the Bible. I am not a very religious person, but I found this helped me to let go a little bit and recognize that I cannot control the outcome. Maybe try something like that on your own?

I also get the attitudes that make me wonder what I did wrong. It is hard to understand when you walk in the door, but try not to take it personally. I am finally getting better at not letting my H's attitude affect me, but I am know I am not completely detached.