My Most Important Week Yet

[Denver_2010]

You did do well. Very.

But I disagree that the not fighting for her is B.S. Four months with no contact? I'd figure my STB-ex was done too. I believe she was being honest with you on how she felt. There's nothing wrong with someone having a different perspective than you. In fact, that's the definition of perspective. I'm sure you didn't go no contact for no reason. It's just one of the risks of DB'g and going dark.

Now she knows. Now she can make her decision. And you can go forward guilt-free.

Hmmmm... respect your opinion crazy, and I agree that she has convinced herself that AT has not fought for her, but if she REALLY thought that, she wouldn't be dating an OM. She would be behaving in an entirely different manner, ie, depression, reaching out, etc. Not going on vacation with an OM.

My W said the exact same thing... AFTER dating OM off an on for almost a year. "it devastated me that you didn't come after me." THAT is what she said to me. Well W, WTF did you expect??? You were dating another man!!!!

Sorry. It is bull sh!t. No way around it.