Sunny, that was a good question that I have thought about a lot too. What everyone above has said is very good info and advice.
I really liked T^2's list of good and bad aspects of living with the MLCer. Living with one myself, I completely understand!
I thought of 2 more things to add to the list, one good one bad.
The bad... I have felt during this time that my H has not had a chance to miss me or the kids, or to see what life would be like without us as a family. There may be a fine line between letting the MLCer work out their stuff while living at home and cake eating. Still not sure where that line is at...
The good... I feel like our boys and their unconditional love for H has helped him heal some and helped guide him to where he is today. Even though we as the S can love them unconditionally, the MLCer doesn't trust our love. For my H, it seemed he was able to accept love from our boys.
Hang in there! You will always find lots of support here.
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
