LOL! Exactly the same SS! I have home out for lunch most days & smacked in the evening. Haven't pushed a Hoover in over a wk etc. H said he didn't expect me to do any of those things when we were tog so it must have been me trying to model behaviour.
Also he cld see how stressed I got about it & said to relax but if I didn't do it, it wasn't done. Cleaning was a regular row as I wanted p'ship in running our home.
Maybe we were subconsciously trying to ensure they didn't leave. I have a fridge magnet now that says - a clean house is a sign of a wasted life!
