About to separate....

[mamabird]

One other thing that I actually just realized today - my kids are both way less stressed now that I'm back in my house. It was very painful for them over the summer when I'd spend time with them and then leave (it was painful for me too obviously). I feel like now that they are calmer, we can be calmer. At least I can; I guess my H still has some anxiety/depression issues.

Also, my H and I talk about our R for at least an hour once a week just by virtue of being in the same house. You'll talk about it MORE if you have the opportunity. True that she won't miss you if YOU leave. It will feel like a relief to her. She has to leave to miss you.