Do you guys think that physical seperation increases tha chances of a marriage coming back together ???
Interesting question Sunny.
Sunny, rather than just answer the question, I wanted to provide you my thoughts your question…
My experience both personal and from what I have read has lead me to realize that asking this type of question implies that one is in a “reactive” mode as opposed to a “preemptive” mode. It’s like playing the odds so to speak. For example, if 46.8 % of the time separating leads to a reconciliation, well then maybe if my partner leaves, the odds are not in my favor and hence I should “react” and file for D or leave the house or whatever. When someone react a lot of times it is in response to something or someone and therefore to some extent they have lost control over what they WANT to do (“preemptive”).
IMHO, it is this type of “reactive” thinking is usually one of the biggest issues I see when one is looking to determine what to do in a specific sitch. I know that in my sitch and life I was VERY reactive for a long time. This lead me to blame my XW for actions that I took. Not good in the long run. I have found that taking preemptive measure for ME and MY life, allows me to 1) accept that the only person I can control is me 2) take responsibility for my own actions 3) allows me to shape my life the way I see fit.
So in closing, Sunny….IMHO, I would not focus on the stats, the different sitchs, the possibilities – instead I would focus really on YOU and YOUR life. What is it that you want and what are you willing to give….or WAIT to get it.
God Bless and have a great weekend.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
