MWG, I have to give you credit, you went way above and beyond to make this work, often times against the advice of me and others on the board. I agree with your friend, I do expect your H to make a play to keep things as they are. I don't think he will fully commit to you for whatever reason, but I do think he likes the buffer he has with you. I do hope you decide to move on and not come off this position, you deserve it. MWG, you have spent many years in misery over this, you deserve some happiness and you will not have it living the way you have the last 6 years or so. Best of luck to you!!!
I am in a good place right now...happy with the pace part of my life is going. In time, all will fall into place. The only struggle I have now is finding a job.
Soon to be ex and I get along better now that I have said okay, you want this divorce, fine............you know, it is one thing to actually talk about it but to go thru with it is entirely different. I just don't care anymore.
He does know I have moved on and am looking forward to my time after the D.
I filed, he is not contesting...all is fine there.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I hope you are all well and for many I know it's a struggle what you are going thru.
I did not realize how long it has been since my last update.
The D was final almost 2 months ago--can you believe it?????
Am I sad--no, not at all!!!
I am just so relieved and honestly, I am in a very happy place right now. Sure, I am still looking for a job but I never thought I could see the light at the end of the tunnel.
There is a guy -- yes--but he lives in my hometown. We are in contact everyday and it has been the best...many of my friends who still live back there know him well and it's been such a wild time. We are the same age, used to run around with the same group of people but we never knew each other growing up!!!
My uncle knew his father so its not like he is a stranger...and my parents were just back there for a visit and visiting just two blocks from where he lives. He even told me to give them his number in case they needed anything.
So yeah, we email, we text, he called me from the NASCAR race he attended...there are ILY's said back and forth, its been really nice and best of all--a lot of talking about everything you can imagine.
Or we'll watch the same shows and text back and forth. My youngest laughs and says I am text dating.
My girls are doing great.
The youngest began her first year of college in Boston and she also works as a CNA. My middle child is still in South Carolina, 3rd year of college and she is doing fine. My son is still working and does well at his job.
Like I said--I am so relieved and happy. Life is good but has its bumps in the road along the way.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
MWG, I'm very happy to come here and see that you posted an update. I am glad to read that your divorce has been finalized and it's behind you. I'm sure that huge elephant on your shoulders is now gone.
I can't believe how quickly time has flown! Both girls in college and your son working. I'm very happy for all of your children. You have a lot to be proud of.
You went through a lot of drama and you did the best you could for a very long time. I always admired you for standing as long as you did. Now it is time for you to spread your wings and fly!
Please stay in touch!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
He is still unemployed and lives in another room of this house. This house belongs to my ex-FIL, and my son also lives here as well.
The ex and I get along but it is like living with a stranger...we do not eat together, sit together or watch tv together....nothing at all and I have no feelings at all toward him.
Ex still thinks he has done no wrong, thinks nothing has affected the kids at all.
What do the kids think? Son loves his dad...D2 does not see eye to eye with him and D3 says she could care less if she ever sees or speaks to him ever again.
Ex does not call her and he rarely talks to D2.
He has not seen OW since January!!
Funny, I asked him just yesterday why OW does not come by and pick him up to go out and he said she is unemployed and has no money. I said to him, who needs money to see each other...then he got ticked off at me for asking.
He knows about my guy friend. Just knows he exists but nothing more.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Oh gees! I didn't realize he still was in the house and that he wasn't seeing OW now. It sounds like you have turned it into a liveable situation though. Good for you!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Well there is still the same OW it is just that they have not seen each other due to finances. They still talk and text like always and she lives about 20 minutes from here. She is not working any longer due to illness so she lives with her daughter.
I wish he would go live with them again. He says they have no room for him over there.
Its so odd. If my BF lived in town, of course I would see him and it would not have to be going on a date. It's bizarre just like it always has been.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
