Backing off will be hard for me. She is leaving town this weekend to see friends who were aware of her affair before I was. I am not sure they respect our relationship or me. But this will give her some space and me some as well. I have been disturbed by this trip and asked her several questions about it. Her answers were all positive about our relationships future, but trust is very hard for me right now. (Especially since one of the friends has used my wife to fake her own whereabouts to her live-in boyfriend in the past. I.e. sneaky underhanded stuff.) Also I have read horror stories about cheating spouses that faked reconciliation for a long time before being outed. Maybe my paranoia is justified, but I feel real needy lately, as if I need constant reassurance to feel right. I intend to back off and find more personal things to do, but I am not confident in my ability to keep at it.
