AnotherStander thanks, I am feeling better about it. You are right, it was/still is a temper tantrum.
She feels I owe it to her because she has been though so much the last 13 years. That she has had a tough 13 years with special needs son and this is the least she deserves.
Basically I am in a no win. I am genuinely concerned that if this is MLC anything could happen once she moves. I agree that this is her choice and she wants to leave, how can this be my fault and that I owe her. But then again I may be halting her journey at the same time.
