Mind you, we'd been intimate a number of times and that day afterwards we got into argument.
This is classic cake-eating. You've got to stop the sex with him, as long as he's involved with the OW and you he has no reason to change anything. You've got to detach and cut him off and work on yourself.
And don't talk to OW anymore. Nothing good can come of that.
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I'm so sad here. I want him to want to come home. Anyway I made an appointment to speak with a DB Coach on Tuesday but I'm hurting morning, noon, and night. It's almost 6 months.
I'm sorry you're feeling that way, it's a bad place to be for sure. This is why you need to detach and GAL. You're basing your recovery on H returning and you're in a state of constant emotional turmoil because you don't know if he'll ever return. You need to focus on yourself. Find things to do that make you happier. Reach out to old friends. Pick up some hobbies. Get some new clothes. Work on fitness/ health. Change your hair & makeup. Make happiness about YOU and not your H. Become the person that attracted H in the first place. H will not be attracted to an emotional wreck of a W that calls to rage at OW. Don't go there again. It's going to take a while for you to get the PMA going, that's OK, just stick with it. The more you work on GAL the more fun you'll have with it and the more you'll want to do it.
