Now Separated, Am I doing the right things?

[Arsene]

Hey Rough,

I know that 25 has a very different way of looking at things I have to admit that very often, it hurt me to read what she wrote on my thread but I have to tell you, if you stop and think about it, she makes an awful lot of sense. Always question the true motivation behind anything you say or do. If it's punitive or judgmental, do you really want to be that way with your W? Remember, would you rather be right or happily married?

I, for one, also thought that this answer (“I am married and I am behaving as such”) rang well if she asks me if I'm seeing someone but after reading 25's post, I think I'll reconsider.

Btw, that post by Denver? Wow!!! Eye opening. The thing is there is a purpose but we don't always know what it is right now. Once we're through with our sentence, we might realize that the purpose was not to save our marriage but to save ourselves. The marriage might still be saved collaterally, though.