About to separate....

[mamabird]

One of the things I'm constantly being told on this board is "get a backbone." A nice way to say "grow a pair." Seriously though - it's good advice. I know you feel guilty and you just want her to take you back/love you and you think that standing up to her will disrupt that and that maybe if you do what she wants you'll soothe the savage beast.

Wrong. You'll just look weak.

She can move out, she can deal with the inconveniences, she can find her own place.

I moved out (against everyone's advice) and when I came back (against my H's wishes) he yelled and screamed and stamped his feet and called me names and said I wasn't taking his feelings into consideration. My moving out allowed us to cool off but it didn't change his feelings toward me AT ALL.

And yes, I agree with Bond, she will try to guilt trip you six ways to Sunday. It's incredibly hard but if you can steel yourself against that (at least in her presence) you'll be well ahead of the game.