My Most Important Week Yet

[Denver_2010]

It's okay AT. Do NOT be hard on yourself. Nothing that you are feeling or experiencing is abnormal. You are in pain. There is no way around that. The only way through it, is through it. That means that you let yourself feel it, you learn what you can from it, you adjust your strategy accordingly, and you keep persevering... moving forward.

The problem right now AT is that you are looking too much at what she is doing and thinking. That is why I thought getting into a R talk with her wasn't the best idea, and preferred that you just make a statement of where you stand.

EVERY TIME she does or says something that is not positive or favorable to what you are trying to do, you are going to be disappointed and hurt. The bottom line is that it simply doesn't matter right now. You can't control it and you can't expedite this process... so I say again, who gives a F about where she stands? She hasn't filed for D, she isn't going to change her behavior because or you or anything that you say or do, and you aren't ready to be DONE. So what do her words about where she 'stands' matter? They will only serve to hurt you. And that, to me, is not productive.

And I'm not being critical of you. I think that you have done and AMAZING job up to this point. AND, I have been where you are. I know what you are hoping for, what your expectations are, and how absolutely heart wrenching it is when it doesn't go the way that you hoped it would.

You are not alone AT. Remember that.

Denver