And it always feels like insult to injury, when you're hurting and don't seem to have much energy to give, and the situation requires energy from you, but things won't change until you focus on your 100% contribution to the relationship instead of focuing on why you don't feel right about things. I don't mean to be insensitive, so hopefully you'll take this as I intend it... but screw feeling bad about things. Screw it. Those feelings are not productive and they do not lead you to your goals. I try to look at my feelings less as things that I am subject to, and more as tools I can use. So I try to seek out positive feelings in myself so that I can apply them to the relationship... and that helps to change things.
What an incredible read.
I can't add anything more to this!
Wait...yes I can. I noticed that when I tell Husband that I'm feeling insecure...it seems to give him permission to start questioning our relationship too. So...it looks like I am leading by example. So, I must make sure to set a postive example. Perhaps the same is true for you?
