Quote: I wouldn't normally do this but I need an outside objective opinion of things. I have blinders on and to be honest, I'm TIRED of analyzing (or trying to ) myself and my M.
Zoo,
Let us try and look at this objectively, if you can? The number one positive I see, if H is willing to tell you how he feels and perceives the R. It may not be exactly what YOU want to hear, but if you listen, he is telling you. Two, you (and you know this) and he his telling you, are OVERANALYZING the R, the M, the H, yourself, chickens, dogs, cats, sheep, the sky, and anything else your little out of control brain can and will imagine. H is ok with the R and the idea that you are not or he is not better than ok, is driving you in circles. Well, if H is NOT happy (and note he did not say he was not happy) then it must be me. And what advice what Zoo give a 3rd party who kept blaming themselves for what the spouse is doing? Sound familiar? Seems like somebody told me this VERY thing. Hmmmm? Quit overreacting and blaming yourself and looking for every possible negative and overanalyzing every word you or H says. Think for a second how many people would long to be where you are?! QUIT. Enjoy what you have and relish the moments and the time with H.
