Trying to Save my Marriage

[TD35]

I really don't know what the boundaries would be at all. Any suggestions?Its very hard for me to be in the same room with him while he is texting with OW or watch him "groom" himself before "going out for a while".

I recently set boundaries which you can find on my post here:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...250#Post2286250

I would encourage you to read a little more of my sitch so you get the context of why I set them. You may also be comforted by the fact that I had many of the same questions you did. Ultimately, for me, it was utterly disrespectful to me when she would text/email him while we were in the same room or car, etc.

I know there were calculated risks with setting the boundaries but the reality was I was working on me in doing this and believed I deserved that much respect in the home where we are raising our children. I am one week into experiencing boundaries right now, so I am not declaring them a complete success except for the fact that I gained additional piece of mind for me and regained some self respect for me which I needed.

And im quite positive its not just a EA with OW, there is evidence that it is a PA now. I of course cannot be 100 percent sure but I am quite sure that it is physical now.

I am curious. Without snooping, how do you know it is a PA now? Also, even if it has moved form an EA to a PA, how does that change how you are going to improve yourself or focus on yourself?

Am I stupid to still want to reconcile if he is sleeping with someone else?

We are all here to save our M. I dont feel stupid for trying to make my M better and enjoy life with my W again. I think you are smart for coming on here and working hard to make changes for yourself.