I really don't know what the boundaries would be at all. Any suggestions?Its very hard for me to be in the same room with him while he is texting with OW or watch him "groom" himself before "going out for a while". That's when my anxiety rises.What would the pressure be that I wold be putting on him? I don't question who he is talking to, or where he goes but im told he is "cake eating" because he basically has free reign in our house right now - I do his laundry, dishes, cook his meals and do everything with our daughter while he just sits there looking miserable but "acting" happy while texting with her when he is actually home. I get him things at the store, groceries, let him watch whatever he wants on the TV while I clean the house. What would that be considered if its not cake eating?I know its a trust issue and he even said that me when this started - "sure a few months will go by but then you'll want to start going out again" which is why i'm scared to "go dark" but I sometimes have to take myself out of the picture and go into my room or not speak to him because it hurts too much emotionally.
And im quite positive its not just a EA with OW, there is evidence that it is a PA now. I of course cannot be 100 percent sure but I am quite sure that it is physical now.
Does that make a difference? Am I stupid to still want to reconcile if he is sleeping with someone else?
